What’s Your Concept of Failure?
When it comes to failing, our egos can be our own worst enemies. As soon as things start going haywire, our defense mechanisms kick in, tempting us to do what we can to save face. Yet, these very normal reactions of denial and chasing your losses do wreak havoc on our ability to adapt.
Denial seems to be the hardest thing in the world, to admit we’ve made a mistake and try to put it right. It requires you to challenge a status quo of your own making.”
Remember failure is part of our journey; it’s not a stopping block. It’s something we can learn from and help grow from. It’s not to be looked at as ‘Oh, I’m a terrible person – I lost this contract, this deal fell through’…It’s always a learning lesson. To really, truly succeed, you absolutely have to fail!”
How many of us, from a young age are taught that failure is ‘bad’? We make an enemy of failure at such a young age and it gets stronger as we grow up. We try hard to avoid it, cringe at thinking about it and question ourselves constantly when we perceive failure
To cap it off we often see our failures are generally a lot more public than our success. So, whether we like it or not, failure is a necessary stepping stone to achieving our dreams.”
Being willing to change how you actually perceive failure might just change your life!
Failures on the way to eventual success can come to be associated with with success enabling us to come to enjoy failure as part of a more important and more complete success. There is a big difference between a success where we succeeded easily, and one where we have overcome obstacles and setbacks.
Follow these four tips in changing your concept of what failure is.
Failure the catalyst for change
You’ve failed, so what now?
Use this opportunity to assess what happened, look at the facts and put a plan in motion on how best to move ahead. Remember it did take Edison approximately 10,000 attempts to invent the light bulb! So don’t give up you can now leverage this failure to move forward.
Failure your path to freedom?
How well does failure show us we are not invincible, own your failure and realise you don’t have to be perfect. Feel the weight lift from your shoulders.
There are so many levels of clarity brought on by failure and if you have failed previously you will know very quickly who your tribe really is. They will be there by your side when the going gets rough.
This is your no 1 opportunity to build resilience. Successful people have a key trait in common, they recover quickly and reassess to keep moving forward.
“When we give ourselves permission to fail, we, at the same time, give ourselves permission to excel.” – Eloise Ristad
How have you used failure as a stepping stone to something greater. Share your story below!